What The Heck Does She Mean?
Sometimes a woman will say something that you take quite literally, and you later find out that she meant something completely different!
Women do this a lot. It’s not that they are lying to you, but it’s just that they want to know that you understand them and their needs, and they figure that you should be able to read the true meaning behind their words.
While there is not an exact dictionary to let you know what she is really saying you can start to pay attention to her clues that she gives off while she is saying something to you. Watching her body language and her reactions to your words will let you know if you are saying the right or the wrong thing to her, and it will allow you to say the right things in future moments when she says something and acts in a similar way.
One thing to remember is that most women do like to talk just for the sake of expressing themselves and dealing with their emotions. They find it therapeutic to verbally share how they are feeling and thinking, and for the most part they just want you to listen and understand where they are coming from.
But when you find that they are complaining about something in the moment then that should be your cue to offer them some help that will make them feel better.
For instance, if she tells you that her back is hurting she would probably like you to help her relieve the pain – either with a massage or by grabbing her some Tylenol. Yes she could just say “Honey, can I have a massage?” but she will most likely want you to give her a massage without her having to ask.
When she doesn’t have to ask you to do something she feels as though you are attentive towards her feelings and needs and this makes her feel good in the relationship.
Another common thing that many women do to see what result they will get is put themselves down. They may say they are fat or ugly when you are around, but that doesn’t mean they actually believe they are fat or ugly. They just want you to validate to them that you don’t think they are fat and ugly!
This could be considered ‘playing games’ by some people, but it really is just a common thing for women to do. They want their partner to make them feel good, and if their partner is not willing to say it on their own time then the woman is going to try to get the comment out of them in her own way.
And remember that even after you tell her she doesn’t look fat or ugly she may say it a few more times just to hear you say it a few more times. Do not ask her way she does that or get upset that she is not listening to you, because she is and she’s enjoying it; Instead, just keep assuring her of how you feel.
Instead of being upset or over-thinking these concepts just try to make her feel good by giving her the outcome she would like. It doesn’t take much effort and it’s a win-win situation. She will feel good and you will have said and done the right thing!
Want to really understand what she’s saying and why she’s saying it? Then you have to read Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex ….Trust me – you will come out of that book with a better understanding of women and why they say and act like they do.