Creating Relationship Goals for The New Year
The New Year is about making new goals and resolutions. And while we normally focus on our health goals like eating better or exercising more, why not also make new relationship goals?
Creating relationship goals for the year can help your relationship flourish and grow more intimate. You are focusing on your relationship and making it a priority because creating relationship goals means you have to take action to achieve those goals. This means you will be constantly work on, and improving, your relationship throughout the year.
What Kind of Relationship Goals Should You Create?
Goals come in 3 varieties: short-term, medium-term, and long-term. Normally your short-term and medium-term goals help you achieve your long-term goal. So if you look at it this way then you may want to think of a long-term relationship goal that you would like to achieve first.
They time frame I have for goals is like this:
- Long-term goals – 6 months or more
- Medium-term goals – 1 to 3 months
- Short-term goals – 1 to 2 weeks
I think it’s pretty doable to set your relationship goals in these time frames.
Some Relationship Goal Suggestions:
Long-term goals should be something you really want. Of course you have your own ideas of what you want in a relationship but here are a few examples.
- Have sex 5 times a week
- Spend 3 hours a day connecting
- Be more patient with each other
Once you decide on a relationship goal that you really want to go for then you can move on to making medium and short term relationship goals that will help you achieve the long-term relationship goal.
For example if your big relationship goal is to have sex 5 times a week and you barely have sex 5 times a year then you may want to make your medium-term relationship goal to be something like have sex 2 times a week and your short-term relationship goal to be something like having sex 2 times.
Is Reaching Relationship Goals Easier Said Than Done?
Once you have your relationship goals in place you have to actually take action towards them. This means you can’t just say “Great, we will try to be having sex 2 times a week within a few months!” and leave it at that. You have to actually make a plan that will allow you to achieve that goal.
A plan consists of attainable steps. For instance the short-term goal of having sex 2 times can be achieved a number of different ways depending on your relationship. It may look like the following.
- Talk about our sexual issues or what’s holding us back from having sex.
- Figure out a plan to make sex more interesting, fun, exciting for both of us.
- Read one sexual self-help book together.
Once you start checking off your step you will find that reaching your relationship goals will be easy. You just have to take the action towards checking doing the steps you lay out.So, take this new year as an opportunity to create a new relationship. A happier, healthier relationship. Make some big relationship goals and start working towards them TODAY!