More often than not it’s one person who wants a committed relationship, and the other one who is not ready. Very rarely do both people in a relationship feel the same way at the exact same time, and want the same things for the relationship very early on. The problem with this situation is that it can break a relationship if there is too much pressure or strain on one person. Especially if the person who wants the committed relationship feels as though they are never going to get it.
So what do you do when you partner is pushing the commitment issue but you are not ready?
Here are a few tips to help you compromise with your partner and keep the relationship alive.
Let Your Partner Know You Are Faithful To Them
Just because you are not committed does not mean you have to be playing the scene. And this is a huge reason that many people want that commitment in their relationship. They figure that when they can say they are committed they are safer.
So stress to your partner that they are the only one in your line of vision, and really make them feel that you are telling the truth. This will enable them to relax a little knowing that you only have eyes for them.
Let Your Partner Know You Are Not Going Anywhere
Another common concern, when commitment is not in play, is that you are going to run away and leave them without an explanation. Assure them that this is not going to happen.
Let them know that if you change your mind about the relationship that you would be honest and open with them instead of leaving them high and dry. This should at least make them feel as though you have some sort of commitment to them and their feelings, and it should make them feel better.
State Your Real Reasons Why And Work On Them
If you are scared to be committed to your partner because you have been hurt so many times in the past, then let them know that you need time to get over that fear. But the trick here is to actually work on that fear! If they see that you are trying to push through your commitment phobias they will feel better about your present relationship together, and less stressed about the future.