Most men are not born with the ability to understand women and what they need in bed. Men are born with the ability to figure out how to please themselves though! So if your man is quick in bed and gets right to the point, his pleasure, then you may need to let him know how you feel if you are ever going to experience the pleasure you crave.
First of all, don’t pretend like his sex is the best you’ve ever had. If you do this then he will think that the way he goes about sex is up to par, and that there is nothing that he needs to change. That means that sex will stay the same no matter how much you try to send him a telepathic message that it’s really not good. If you are showing him that you enjoy it then he thinks you enjoy it.
Next, don’t make him feel bad for not being able to pleasure you. Men and women view sex very differently. Women need their brains and thoughts to be turned on before the rest of their body can do its job in the department of pleasure, and that can take a little work on the man’s part. He doesn’t know that or even understand that because his own body get’s turned on at the sight of you. So recognize that he’s viewing sex from his point of view and not a woman’s point of view.
Now that you know he doesn’t get it on his own you need to get some outside help. You know what you want but you don’t know how to explain the mechanics of it to him. If you buy a book or video for the both of you then he will learn about the right way to please a woman on his own. He won’t feel bad because YOU are telling him what he is doing wrong, but instead he will feel empowered because he is learning what to do right!
Then once he starts practicing his new found ideas and moves in bed you can direct him to spots that feel even better for you. He will naturally want to please you and enjoy the direction you are giving him, because the pressure and guesswork of how to please you will then be removed from the equation all together.
Changing your boyfriend from a disaster in bed to a guy who can rock your world is a process and it may take some time. But remember don’t make him feel bad and instead guide him to the knowledge that he needs in order to really understand what your pleasure is all about.
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