Looks Versus Personality – Which is More Important in Attracting and Keeping a Man?

So what attracts a man to you and what keeps them around? Do you think that looks are the key for everything or that personality is what matters most or is it a little bit of a mixture when it comes to keeping them?

I asked this question to some random men and seemed to get the same responses over and over.

Attracting Men

Most men agreed that of course looks are the first thing he will see. His vision is the first sense he uses when he meets a girl. But even though there are some guys that will do anything for a ‘hot’ girl to be with them, most guys agree that looks are not the be all and end all of their decision making process.

For instance women who are in love with themselves and are high maintenance women show their true colors very quickly and become a deal breaker for most men.

There are also men who approach regardless of the looks when they see the personality shining through.

But would a winning personality outshine a hot body when put side by side? Maybe not. Most men agreed that the hot body would outshine the personality at first glance.

Keeping a Man

While looks draw most men in the personality is what keeps them around. If she is mean, whiny, complaining, arrogant, and full of herself or a lot of work then most men will pack their bags and leave.

Although some will stay around and endure all the misery this woman can give them for a while before realizing that there are better women out there for them.

But for the most part, having a good sense of humour and outlook on life will keep someone interested in you. Remember that your looks will not always be as they are now. It’s just a fact of life that we change over time in the look department. But our personality is something that we have complete control over.

One interesting comment I got was that “If all that matters is personality, most people would be better off dating the same gender, many people can relate to the same gender”, and while this stuck out like a sore thumb in the pool of answers it does make sense in one way for me.

When you are in a relationship you do not want to conform to the other person completely. You do not want to agree with everything they say, even if you don’t, and you do not want to pretend to be one of the guys if you are not. So if you rely solely on your personality and mesh into one of the guys, without reminding him of your womanly differences, you may lose his interest in you as a feminine counterpart.

In Conclusion

So in the end I would have to say that they are both important at different times in the attraction and preserving process. I would like to say that personality wins all the time but it’s instinctual to be attracted to ‘your type’ when you see them.

While the looks may attract guys it will not always keep them around. And while the personality may take a back seat to looks initially it eventually moves to the front of the line when a relationship ensues.

If you are a guy and have a different view feel free to comment on this article! I obviously didnt get every guys opinion out there to this question and we love to hear your opinions.