So you have met someone you would like to spend more time with and get to know a bit better, you have plucked up the courage to ask them out and they have said yes – fantastic you think, that’s the hard bit done…think again! The pressure of a first date can send many over the edge and you hear yourself saying and doing things that just aren’t you whilst all the time thinking what the hell am I doing!
Try not to overthink it, take a deep breath, relax and try to enjoy yourself. So what exactly can you do to help ensure the date runs as smoothly as possible?
Location, Location, Location
If you are the one choosing a venue, try to pick somewhere your date will enjoy (ask them!) You may love mini golf and a Nando’s, but it’s not everyone’s dream night out!
A quiet pub, a quick dinner or lazy lunch in a place you know are safe choices. Try to keep the first date quick and simple. Can you imagine having to sit through a five course meal with someone, when after the first ten minutes of your date you are wondering what on earth possessed you to agree to see them? Quick and simple also means that you have less time to make a show of yourself! No matter how hard we try, everyone is nervous on a first date, plus if it goes well you are both left wanting more.
Noisy nightclubs or bars are a nightmare first date option, you can’t hear each other and will spend half the night nodding along and who knows what you are agreeing to! Always opt for a public place with other people around. No matter how nice and normal the other person seems, you still really don’t know them, so avoid giving out too many personal details such as your address until you feel you know them well enough.
Scrub up…just not too much
Make an effort and be sure to look your best. Try not to go overboard, it would be nice if they recognised you if they passed you in the street the following day! Greasy hair and bad hygiene are a sure fire way of not getting that second date.
By all mean have some Dutch courage… just not too much!
Finally, remember that this is supposed to be fun, so relax, enjoy and don’t put so much emphasis on it that it becomes a painful and stressful experience.
Kelly Forster takes a look at making an impression on that first date, writing here for Go Dating Ltd
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