Guys are the ones who are known to be visually stimulated but that rule applies to girls as well. In fact so much so that you can have a girl wanting to get to know you before you even say one word to her.
This approach works well if you are a nervous guy around girls because you may use the body language to charm her pants off before you jump into the conversation. That way she’ll over look the fumbles and mishaps that come out of your mouth because the first impression was so good.
So to begin with make sure she catches you looking at her. Give her just a quick glance of you looking at her. Don’t smile or wink or lick your lips. Just try to keep it normal looking.
The perfect glance would be one that portrays how cute you think she is or that she stunned you are with her beauty. Yes, seriously. So try to think how great she looks in your head and it should convey outwards through your look.
After the initial look make sure she sees that you are having fun doing whatever you are doing. You want her to see a happy, charming, and sincere person.
Don’t swagger around trying to look cool or talk five levels above your normal voice as these might have her looking elsewhere. Over doing it equals trying too hard and that comes off as needy. But remember that under doing it comes off as boring and plain. Just be normal, have a good time, and play it cool.
When she sees you having fun with others and them enjoying your company as well she will associate that with you being a nice guy that she wants to be around and get to know.
After about five or ten minutes have gone by from the initial look give her yet another look that lasts a little longer. Again, don’t wink or give her the thumbs up. You just want to let her know you are interested. So when she sees you looking hold the look a little longer. When you look away make it seem like you just broke out of a trance and continue doing what you’re doing.
Do not go overboard with the trance thing but just take a pause to get up from a sitting position or to move from one spot to the other or to continue a conversation you are having. The most important part is the pause. She will recognize it as you thinking about her which will give her the non-visual thumbs up that you’re into her.
Now you are set up to do the smile and possibly the conversation. In another few minutes you can catch her attention and give her a smile. Or you can go over to her and try to start a conversation with her.
You have laid the groundwork to let her know you are a nice and normal guy who is interested in her. The rest is up to her.
Body language is a hugely massive tool to use for picking up a girl and if you use it right she will always have an interest in you. Just make sure you keep the cheesy moves out of the picture for a while no matter how tempting they are.
For more tips and serious help on how to get a girl check out “Fireworks with females“.