This Advice Can Save You Some Heartache and Get You Laid For Pure Sex: So Listen Up!
You just want sex without the commitment.She wants sex without the commitment. DONE. It’s a deal! Let’s be friends with benefits! Then you get it on and carry on with life as usual, right? It depends.
Friends with benefits seems like a great deal when you think about it, but that’s before all the emotions, issues, and other problem areas get in the way.
There are many things that can go wrong when you become friends with benefits, and that’s why we always recommend that if you just want sex then you should check out some adult dating websites where other people are literally looking for just sex as well, and keep your friends as friends. They are the best place to find friends with benefits.
But if you decide that your friend is who you want to hook up with then you should follow some friends with benefits rules!
Here’s what many men have discovered the hard way…
5 Friends With Benefits Rules To Live By!
Chances are you still want to be friends after it’s all said and done, and the best way to do that is to lay down some ground rules BEFORE you have sex.
Without rules you both may have a different definition of what friends with benefits is, and that can cause your friendship to end very quickly.
On that same note, you want the rules to please both of you since you are in it for pleasure. This is the time to tell someone what you want out of sex and exactly how you want it!
So here are a few rules to get you started on your way to friends with benefits:
Rule 1: Avoid Committed Relationship Traditions
No spending 5 days in a row together or attending parties together as a couple. Why? If you play the part of a committed relationship then you will start to feel like you are in a committed relationship, and one of you is going to get hurt in the long run.
Instead play the part of friends with benefits. Meet up for sex when you need it. Go out in public as friends.
Rule 2: No Jealousy Allowed
Don’t get jealous when your ‘friend’ brings a date to a function. You are not in a committed relationship which means that you are still open to finding the love of your life.
There is nothing that is going to ruin your arrangement or your friendship faster than jealousy! It will cause hurt feelings, fights, and then confused feelings. Not good.
So make a deal that you are going to date other people and show up with those people on friend-like outings. If one of you can’t deal with that then you should call the whole thing off!
Rule 3: Be Honest About Pleasure
This arrangement should be for pleasure. Your need for sex is what drove you to it, so you should want to get the most out of it you can.
Make an arrangement to get equal pleasure during your meetings to avoid disappointment after it’s all done.
Rule 4: Keep It To Yourselves
Don’t tell everyone about your arrangement that you have. If you tell everyone that you know, then you might not only make them feel uncomfortable around the two of you, but it will also add a bit of responsibility to the relationship – which is part of committed relationships not friends with benefits.
Plus people’s views on these types of situations can be quite strong and you may end up getting an earful from other friends every time you meet up with them. This can cause a strain on your arrangement and on your relationship with other friends.
Bottom line: Keep it to yourselves.
Rule 5: Remember it’s About Pleasure and NOT Companionship
If you feel like friends with benefits will make you feel less alone and more loved then don’t sign up for the deal.
You have to be a strong independent person to venture on this trip. If you feel like you should be receiving anything more than just sex from this arrangement I would avoid it all together.
Sure you will still have the friendship during this period, but there’s a fine line between friendship and commitment – and that line can get confusing when you throw sex in.
Instead become exactly what the title suggest – friends with benefits. Don’t attach feelings of need or want from your friend that doesn’t belong in the friendship. This will save you and them a lot of heartache and confusion down the road.
Remember if you start to rely on them for all your intimate companionship then you will be greatly disappointed when they find someone they want to be more than just friends with benefits with.